On July 2, AD 2009 South Carolina’s First Lady, Jenny Sanford, issued a statement… a statement of forgiveness.
There is no question that Mark’s behavior is inexcusable. Actions have consequences and he will be dealing with those consequences for a long while. Trust has been broken and will need to be rebuilt. Mark will need to earn back that trust, first and foremost with his family, and also with the people of South Carolina.
The real issue now is one of forgiveness. I am willing to forgive Mark for his actions. We have been deeply disappointed in and even angry at Mark. The Bible says, “In your anger do not sin.” (Psalm 4:4) In this situation, this speaks to the essence of forgiveness and the critical need to channel one’s energy into positive steps that uphold the dignity of marriage and the family, and lead to reconciliation over time. My forgiveness is essential for us both to move on with our lives, with peace, in whatever direction that may take us.
Read the entire statement here.
In Luke 23:34, Jesus is crying out a prayer for God’s people, and asking Him to forgive them.
From the Heart of the Pastor reflects on Luke 23:34:
“Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34).
Have you ever thought about the meaning of true forgiveness? It means that the one offended treats the offender as though the offense never occurred. You reject the offense and send away its “hurt/sting” so that the offender is free of the imputation and the accompanying ill will.
Have you ever considered the requirement God has placed upon you to forgive?
Refusing to forgive is a sin bearing eternal consequences: For if you forgive men for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions (Mt. 6:14f.). Paul says Christians are marked by their bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. And beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity (Col. 3:13f.). Christ took upon Himself the nature of those He would save in order that those saved would take on the nature of the One who saved them (Tit. 2:14).
Have you ever addressed the process of forgiving? You must shed the perceived grievance. You must surrender your “self” to the extent of Christ’s own yieldedness:
For consider Him who has endured such hostility by sinners against Himself, so that you may not grow weary and lose heart. You have not yet resisted to the point of shedding blood in your striving against sin (Heb. 12:3f.). Christians are committed to forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead (Phil. 3:13). Nevertheless, exclusion is easier than expulsion – guard against beginnings. How is this accomplished?
Have you ever reflected upon the insulators you should have established in your spiritual infrastructure so that you will forgive most quickly before a root of bitterness has sprung up?
- [Love] is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered (I Cor. 13:5). Love is not quick-tempered and refuses to perceive an injustice by refusing to impute evil motives. The lover receives all matters in a light most favorable to the offeror.
- Your position is that of the Apostle Paul’s: I count all things to be loss in view of the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them but rubbish in order that I may gain Christ (Phil. 3:8). When you disabuse yourself of holding onto perceived rights, you will not refuse forgiveness.
- You capture the mind of Christ and take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (I Cor. 2:16; II Cor. 10:5). What does this mean practically? Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on these things (Phil. 4:8).
Is this lofty standard of forgiveness achievable? I can do all things through Him who strengthens me (Phil. 4:13).
Soli Deo Gloria!
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